Loneliness among seniors is a widespread and often silent struggle. While being alone isn’t inherently negative, loneliness is characterized by feelings of isolation, a lack of meaningful relationships, and a sense of not belonging.
Sadly, this isn’t just a fleeting emotion; for many, it’s a chronic condition exacerbated by factors such as retirement, the loss of loved ones, declining health and mobility, and geographical distance from family and friends.
As we at Hospice of Redmond have personally observed, loneliness can contribute to a decline in overall well-being, increasing the risk of depression, anxiety, cognitive decline, and even physical ailments. We recently discussed this critical issue with two members of our team, Angela, a CNA and Transitions Coordinator, and Cheryl, who holds her master’s degree in social work. Their experiences on the front lines of care provide invaluable insights into the reality of senior loneliness and the powerful role connection can play in alleviating it.
“When I visit someone, I can sense loneliness sometimes,” Angela shared, highlighting the often palpable feeling of isolation. “You meet them, and want to help, but some are stuck in their loneliness, and it is difficult to break them from this.”
Angela’s proactive approach involves actively connecting individuals with social opportunities.
“I try to get them out of their environment and expose them to social environments like the Redmond Senior Center,” said Angela.
She takes the time to ask them about their hobbies and connect them with classes that interest them. To combat the fear many have of going somewhere for the first or even second time alone, Angela often joins them initially. This personal touch can be the vital first step in overcoming the inertia of isolation.
Cheryl emphasized the profound health implications of loneliness, stating, “Confidence goes down, and it’s harder to reach out and get them involved.” She shares the story of a patient diagnosed with failure to thrive, something more commonly seen in babies, who experienced a remarkable recovery through connection with hospice volunteers. “The connection can make a huge difference in someone’s life,” Cheryl affirmed.
According to the American Psychological Association, studies have shown that chronic loneliness can be as detrimental to health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, increasing the risk of heart disease, stroke, dementia, and depression. Seniors are particularly vulnerable, with a significant percentage reporting feelings of loneliness and social isolation.
Angela shared that when people are isolated, having contact with others can extend their lives. Studies have shown that social contact when nearing the end of one’s life is more beneficial than some medications.
This need for connection is evident from the very beginning of life. Cheryl pointed out, drawing a parallel to the vulnerability of premature infants: “Think about premature babies who are not touched and held. Research has shown that they often fail to thrive, experiencing developmental delays and poorer health outcomes.”
Just as physical touch is crucial for the survival and development of infants, social connection is vital for the well-being of individuals throughout their lifespan. This underscores the fundamental human need for connection, regardless of age.
The challenges of isolation extend beyond the senior population. Cheryl recalled counseling a teenager struggling with social anxiety, emphasizing that “if we don’t put the effort into socialization, it impacts anxiety and how they thrive.” She also highlighted how illness within a couple can inadvertently lead to isolation for the healthier partner, and how societal emphasis on independence can prevent individuals from seeking needed support.
Overcoming isolation requires a multi-pronged approach. Angela stresses the importance of persistent outreach and offering various options and support groups. Cheryl emphasizes the courage it takes to break the habit of isolation and the value of encouragement and guidance.
Practical barriers, such as transportation issues and health concerns like incontinence and communication difficulties, also need to be addressed with understanding and resources provided to help overcome them.
Fortunately, our Central Oregon community offers a wealth of resources to combat loneliness and help give people a sense of purpose. Some of Angela and Cheryl’s favorites include the Redmond Senior Center, Meals on Wheels, the potential benefits of pet ownership, and pet therapy. Hospice of Redmond has volunteers with different backgrounds who are strategically paired with clients and patients. For example, they have veteran volunteers who visit homes and volunteers who enjoy sewing, who can easily connect with seniors who also enjoy this hobby. For music lovers, they offer the Voices of Joy program, where volunteers visit individuals’ homes and senior living facilities to sing to them.
Combatting senior loneliness is something everyone can get involved in. It is essential to ask questions of the seniors in your life and not give up if they are initially resistant to trying new things. Take Angela’s advice and explore past hobbies the person once enjoyed. Then, identify groups or classes at the library, senior center, or on meetup.com that offer similar opportunities. Invite them over for coffee or dinner, or bring it to them. Just five minutes can make a huge difference.
Loneliness is a serious public health concern with significant consequences. By understanding its impact, recognizing the barriers to connection, and actively supporting and guiding those who are isolated towards available resources, you can make a meaningful difference in the lives of our seniors and others in our community.